cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/27368980

I am curious if the majority of leftist people don’t actually want children haha. There doesn’t seem to be any studies about it, but my convos with leftists is that most don’t seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn’t give them too much time to organize or whatever other reason that I forgot about.

I personally lean on not having children because I have been laid off of several jobs and having someone financially dependent to me scares the shit out of me and would put my stress levels through the roof.

  • swelter_spark@reddthat.com
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    7 days ago

    I don’t have kids because I’ve never especially liked them, and I think it’s morally wrong to have kids if you don’t like or want them.

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        6 days ago

        In my experience, many people who don’t like or want kids choose to have them for other reasons: family pressure, trying to improve a romantic relationship, feeling like it’s the next step in life, etc. The children born as a result spend the rest of their lives with parents who don’t or can’t meet their emotional and/or physical needs. To me, that’s deeply morally wrong.

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        Not OP, but absolutely.

        You are bringing a human life into existence a decision they have no say in.

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            That’s not what I would infer from my statement and in conjunction with OPs. Neither of us want or are interested in children. I wasn’t talking about all people, I’m talking about myself, OP, and maybe anyone who doesn’t want children.

            I think it would be morally wrong to bring a life into the world if I wasn’t prepared to put their needs and wants above my own and care for them to the best of my ability, and I would not be capable of doing so if I didn’t want them in the first place.

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    I have 2 kids and I want them, but their mother kidnapped them and took them to another country, leading to tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees and mont of mental and emotional anguish. I might be able to see them again, hopefully.

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    7 days ago

    People that don’t want children usually think of the potential wellbeing of a future human. People that do want children, usually do so for selfish reasons. It makes sense people who think of environment or other people are more lefties.

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      I agree, but in a way everything we do is for selfish reasons.
      An avg of 2.1 children can be had per couple and it will not grow the population.
      I say that is OK.

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        Population growth is not my main concern. If I have to live in a filthy city, work full-time and barely have money to support myself, I don’t see why I should consider having a child.

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          This completely contradicts your earlier point:

          People that don’t want children usually think of the potential wellbeing of a future human. People that do want children, usually do so for selfish reasons.

          Are you choosing to not have kids (which is a perfectly fine and morally defensible decision to make) because you’re thinking of the potential wellbeing of a future human, or for the selfish reason that it would make your socioeconomic situation more difficult?

          Again, simply saying “I just don’t want to have kids” is perfectly fine. But you tried to moralize it by saying people who do have kids are selfish and those who don’t are altruistic. Yet the reason you gave for not having kids was selfish.

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            or for the selfish reason that it would make your socioeconomic situation more difficult?

            No. My kid will grow up in a bad place and I won’t have time to spend with it. I don’t have a pet for the same reasons.

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    I am very much a leftist (anarchist, to be specific). I have 2 kids and I absolutely LOVE being a dad. It’s the single most fulfilling and enjoyable thing I’ve done in my entire life.

    If you don’t want kids, that’s perfectly fine. Kids need a loving an nurturing home, and if someone is unwilling to provide that, they shouldn’t have kids just to have them. But I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with having kids if you want them.

    From an ideologically leftist perspective (which absolutely should NOT be the determining factor in having kids), remember how much focus the fascists put on family and kids. They are having plenty of kids who will be raised with their fascist ideology. Do you really want the generation who will be running the world when we’re old to be entirely raised by fascists?

    I didn’t have kids because of my politics, but I’m happy to know that at least 2 future adults will be raised by me with my values.

    most don’t seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn’t give them too much time to organize or whatever

    I’d just say that every single one of these factors has been in play for virtually all of history and yet people still had kids and were able to do great things. John Brown had like 20 kids, but that didn’t stop him from fighting slavery. Nestor Makhno had a daughter. Our world is nowhere near as dire as the one Makhno lived in, and he built an entire anarchist society. What do you think the birth rate in places like Rojava is?

    These aren’t very good reasons to not have kids, they’re just justifications people pull out when they feel like saying “I just don’t want kids” isn’t good enough. It is. if you don’t want kids, that’s fine. Don’t try to make up some reason why others who do shouldn’t.

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    My partner and I struggled with whether it was moral to have kids considering the future that we’re facing. But I guess emotion won out over logic. I wouldn’t judge anyone for not having kids, but I love mine more than I thought I could love anyone or anything.

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    I think most people that don’t want kids might change their opinion if their material or romantic circumstances improve?

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    I’ve known since I was like 13 that I would never be stable enough in life to feel good about having children. Not even because I knew I would be too tired from working so much to devote myself to a child. Also, just the financial strain of another human would never ever be feasible.

    Also the fact that children have no rights and can just be permanently fucked up by their parents feels like choosing to rip a person away from Africa at tge height of slavery. Just my personal opinion.

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    I live in a country that according to a study is the nr 1 in outsourcing their children.
    Nanny, babysits, daycare, etc… Parents have less and less time to raise them in our performance-work-oriented societies.
    Even if they could and have the time, it is also known they only have a minor part of shaping them.
    Outside factors combined, school, their friends and worse of all social media have a bigger impact.
    And I see those ‘parents’ all the time, proud of how they’re raising a child while both having successful carreers.
    These people wake their kids and see them again when they put them to bed.
    On top of that I glanced over an article recently (since I have no kids) about those children that get little attention from their parents.
    A lot of mental problems later and even a substantial rise in percentage of psychopats.

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    I’m a leftist and I would like to have children, but can’t. I’m intersex and the “plumbing” simply doesn’t work.

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    I don’t have a solid yes/no stance personally but at my age I don’t think it’s going to happen. My conditions for yes are having a reliable partner who wants children. So far I’ve struggled to find any sort of partner, let alone a reliable one who wants children.

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    Want them, can’t afford them. Not in terms of money, living space (which money would solve), or time (which is required to make money). I already feel like I’m drowning on my own, I don’t want to also fail my children.

    Plus the world is a shitty place.

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    I chose to not have children mainly for the environment. My partner just doesn’t like the idea of having children. However, I know a lot of leftist people that have/want children.

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        They’re happy with each other and the time they spend together. They’ve said they dont feel the need to procreate and they currently feel like the world is not a place to bring a kid.

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            Her parents hound them about having kids. We told them that the decision is too big for anyone else to push you into it. If they choose to, we will love them and help - but we’re not quitting our lives to play Grandma/Grandpa daycare constantly. If they choose not to, then we probably won’t have grandkids and that will be ok too. I think our other son might like to have kids but he’s nearing mid-30s and isnt seeing anyone. He says he’d prefer to be an uncle than a dad, but if he had the right partner i think that could change.