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Cake day: April 10th, 2025
  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•Is it bad that I'm not graduating on time?English
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    2 days ago

    It doesn’t matter beyond the FOMO.

    Chances are, no one will remember or care in a decade.

    Assuming you are USAmerican?

    Unfortunately, chances are also just a bit better than a coin flip you’ll be able to find a decent job anyway, so, it also doesn’t matter in that sense.

    41% of recent grads are underemployed, 6% are unemployed, you thus have a 53% chance of finding a job that utilizes your degree.

    … Assuming the economy does not get worse.

    … Which it will.

    Sorry man, happened to me as well. I graduated right out into the Great Recession… and now we’re looking at a 2nd Great Depression.

    Good luck.

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoAsklemmy@lemmy.ml•does anyone else’s family think their ambitions/goals are “stupid”?English
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    20 days ago

    Every ‘goal’ my family gave me and then forced me into pursuing?

    Sure, they praised me when I accomplished those things.

    Every goal I actually chose for myself, and achieved?

    At best, absolutely no help of any kind when I’d ask them for help, general constant dissuasion and negging, and then after I achieve those goals, massive, massive passive aggressive jealously and constant belittling.

    I now live several states away, don’t communicate with them, and have finally been able to establish a sense of self, and self-esteem, based around my own assesment of what are good traits and goals, instead of basing them on trying to please incompetent bullies.

    …

    If your goals are, as you say in another post, learning how to make a vidro game, learning to draw, learning basic programming/web design…

    These are literally all goals that pretty much most people with sufficient spare time and diligence could figure out the basics of and even become decently competent at with a few years of time… not even in a formal education setting, though that could likely help.

    Your goals are extremely reasonable, your family is being ridiculous.

    Are you guaranteed to become wealthy via pursuit of these goals? No, of course not.

    But you aren’t guaranteed that in most other careers or lines of work either.

    If you don’t already have gobs of money and/or influential connections… chances are, you never will.

    Unless you are like abadoning a fairly solid career path that you’re already significantly time/money invested in, and just completely abandoning all means of keeping yourself able to eat and sleep indoors for the full time pursuit of hobbies…

    Then no, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to learn more skills.

  • sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.comtoFediverse@lemmy.world•[Solved] What just happened to 4 million posts?English
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    28 days ago

    i apparently cannot figure out ascii shrugs, nvm

    I don’t know exactly how that post counter … actually, technically counts posts, but:

    1:

    Zip going down could have uncounted all posts anywhere made by zip accounts.

    2:

    There could have been some kind of… propogating post count negation effect, as various other instances reacted differently to zip users posts on their instances could not pull them anymore, on different time scales.

    3:

    If a zip user had a … top level comment, on another instance, its possible all lower level comments responding to that comment may also have poofed out of existence, in some respect.

    …

    I may be misusing some terminology here, and this is just spitballing, but yeah.

    Almost all of my .zip account’s posts/comments… are not on zip itself, and its possible that that is fairly common amongst .zip users.