I don’t think you quite understand how the Fediverse works.

Lemmy has no control over the instances. It only provides the format and connects the instances with each other. That is the „fed“-part. Federation. A central authority controlling how each instance moderates itself would defeat the point.

If you don’t like an instance, block it and move on. Nobody except the person who runs the server can do anything to change how they run it.

Can using neutral pronouns be misgendering? I was always under the impression that they’re universally applicable regardless of the other person’s gender