It sounds like you were being an ass for a while and you’re recent comments were the breaking point.

I’m a negative person, but I try to reign it when communicating with other people. When I do have to vent, I tend to get support because I’m not being an emotional vampire to those people.

I have some other people in my life who do nothing but complain and I keep them at an arms distance. I feel worse being around them. I do not care about their petty problems.

Context matters. “Male/female” is objectifying and can be used for “objects” like jobs. “Men/women” is more personal and should be used for people. The poster is using almost exclusively “male/female” even where “men/women” should be used, which leads to some clunkiness.