Carighan Maconar

Other way around. Open Library is part of the internet archive. Given it’s also vastly superior in quality and has tools to maintain and administrate the data, I very much prefer it over alternative offerings. If Bookwyrm at least had a curation/maintainence team or support group or something, and not everyone could just nilly-willy add duplicates of existing entries, then I could see more use for it.

But like others have said, it’s also a bit of a different use case. If you want to pull data, definitely do it from OL. They’re the same source Bookwyrm uses for its main data import, after all.

Considering who is behind it, I just use Open Library. In particular because like you say, their actual data is much more useful.

I mean the girl said he used to message her sending her memes and saying she looks good but if he’s with me I’d expect him to atleast unfollow her??

I mean, if it’s a typical account on the web, it’s more like a performance? Much like any porn actress (these accounts are ultimately softcore porn wanting to sell you their hardcore stuff) it’s an act, it’s in the name.
Comparing yourself with an actress never sits quite right with me. Plus we only ever see the small acting part of the person. If you listen to podcasts, Holly Randall’s interviews with various porn actresses and actors has some fascinating insights into the parts we don’t see, and like and actor or actress they’re not at all the people they appear to be.

And I gotta ask… if it weren’t softcore porn, would it be weird for your partner to be following an actress, and/or being acquainted to them?

He has problems getting hard when we do it which makes me question if he’s thinking about something else but he gets mad when this happens to him lol

This is something you need to talk about. To guys it can be utterly damaging to their ego, it’s less about being mentally not there, but about discussing openly why it happens. After all, it could be anything. It could be nervousness. It could be that he enjoys things differently, and maybe you do, too. It could be medical. It could be circumstantial (e.g. my current partner cannot become horny after dinner for a while, that’s just how it is 😅, body too focused on digestion).
It’s impossible to say, but it’s also really not something to sweep under the rug or belittle. And this is not meant to sound accusatory, it would not be something to sweep under the rug if it’s on your side either.

Talk about it. Discuss sexy and non-sexy things. Details. Kinks. Planning out sex feels weird at first, but it’s sooooo freeing when you openly know every little detail that gets your partner hornier, and you can totally play them, and importantly you also know they’d let you know the moment they want something different.

I mean he likes my Posts but not my stories. Idk.

That sounds weird to me. As in, why does it bother you? It’s just Instagram, you have an actual connection, I’d probably feel more weird if my long-distance partner likes my online stuff than if they don’t.

As in, I want them to like me in a proper way, talk to me, open up to me, want to be with me, desire me, that stuff. I don’t need the fake validation that is online +1’s from someone I want a genuine connection with, and while I don’t truly mind them honestly if I had to choose, I’d prefer to do without them.

That is to say, my partner sometimes comments on a status I post or so. But unlike randoms and aquaintences, they don’t do it by replying to them, they tell me about it in a voicechat. That’s the meaningful connection, and why would I want both.

I like him a lot but sometimes I think I might not be ready for a relationship with these jealousies lol

Maybe, maybe not. But don’t let the doubt eat away at you either. It’s a learning experience, and it’s an important one to have. Now mind you my ability to truly give advise will be limited (I’m twice your age 🙈 ). But in my 20s I was far more unsure about what I wanted, what I can do, what I cannot do and what works for me, too. It took until my late 20s and with my then-partner asking for whether they can have a side-piece (wanting to try sex with their own gender) and oddly feeling… entirely okay with that… to truly understand that there’s nothing you should never talk about in a relationship, it just has to be an open, non-judgement and non-confrontational discussion, based on the truth that both parties in a relationship never stop learning about both themselves and the other.
We talked about it. A lot. About what we’d do if they found a person they like more than me, etc. About what our boundaries are. About whether we want to try stuff together, and if yes, what. And honestly, that was a huge learning experience for me, nowadays I have an FwB, am into various kinks quite openly, and for example my partner being non-monogamous would really not bother me, as long as enough trust exists in the relationship. But this would have absolutely killed me back in the days.

Sorry, long way to say: Talk more about it. Posting here isn’t a bad step, but we can only help you so much as like +1’s you get on the internet, we’re not “real” connections of the type where you should be discussing these things. Your partner is a very good one, OTOH. Your closest friends might be. Can’t judge that very well from afar, sorry.

I’m curious about how you propose this would be done…

Totally not the point, and it was obvious, but hey, if you want to be offended instead of engaging with the thread, that’s your perogative.

I’m sorry to say this, but I don’t need the extra space for H-cups my ex needed. 😅 All depends on your specific body, but there are good reasons for all kinds of specific clothing shapes existing from extremely slim-fitting muscular shorts and super-spindly trousers all the way to saggy super-long shirts most people use for sleeping, Y-shaped t-shirts for big cup sizes and plus-sizes on suits.

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People have different body shapes, you know? And sure, you could say “Buy why isn’t every design available in every shape then?!”, to which I’d say that I guess in an ideal world it would be but as a company you got to draw a line somewhere because manufacturing, logistics and storage costs are a thing. But if you look at say redbubble, they’ll sell you virtually any design on 50-80 different articles of clothing independent of which one it is.

There’s some… weird things though, granted. Like how you can tell “made for women”-trousers because a) the button is on the left and b) the pockets are ridiculously tiny.

Yeah it’s a difference when it’s a cleaver, something meant to apply raw force, and hence needs a certain weight to be usable.

But a knife?!

There were a lot of very public cases of people trying to or threatening to add poison to cereals, after all. Something like 30+ years ago of course, but it might have influenced this.

burning gas

Found another problem with your oven, get one from this turn of the century! :P

Yeah being in power will moderate Hi… Trump!

I have family very seriously investigating citizenship to another country via ancestry.

This is what I’d actually advise most people who realistically are in a position where they can move: Get out. Don’t try to right the listing ship, you got more pressing personal issues (I bet). Just move, there are better places than the US, and that’s not even difficult to achieve. For all their individual flaws and their own right-wing parties and their rise and all, most non-US western countries at least have a higher standard of living and actual public service such as universal healthcare and shit.

Same. It overly corrects sometimes and can be a bit laggy, but in mixed language sentences it’s unmatched by a wide margin IMO.